Anger - Just Become Aware

Anger is frustrated love. At times, anger grips us uncontrollably. What can we do about it? To begin with let's look at various thoughts offered on this.




1. Osho - managing Anger - If somebody creates anger in you, tell him that you will come back with response in 24 hours.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aT_sSY6swY

A Zen student came to Bankei and said: "Master, I have an ungovernable temper -- how can I cure it?"
"Show me this temper," said Bankei, "it sounds fascinating."
"I haven't got it right now," said the student, "so I can't show it to you."
"Well then" said Bankei, "bring it to me when you have it."
"But I can't bring it just when I happen to have it," protested the student. "It arises unexpectedly, and I would surely lose it before I got it to you."
"In that case," said Bankei, "it cannot be part of your true nature. If it were, you could show it to me at any time. When you were born you did not have it, and your parents did not give it to you -- so it must come into you from the outside. I suggest that whenever it gets into you, you beat yourself with a stick until the temper can't stand it, and runs away.”



First thing: in controlling you repress, in transformation you express. But there is no need to express on somebody else because the "somebody else" is just irrelevant. Next time you feel angry go and run around the house seven times, and after it sit under a tree and watch where the anger has gone. You have not repressed it, you have not controlled it, you have not thrown it on somebody else -- because if you throw it on somebody else a chain is created, because the other is as foolish as you, as unconscious as you. If you throw it on another, and if the other is an enlightened person, there will be no trouble; he will help you to throw and release it and go through a catharsis. But the other is as ignorant as you -- if you throw anger on him he will react. He will throw more anger on you, he is repressed as much as you are. Then there comes a chain: you throw on him, he throws on you, and you both become enemies.


Don't throw it on anybody. It is the same as when you feel like vomiting: you don't go and vomit on somebody. Anger needs a vomit. You go to the bathroom and vomit! It cleanses the whole body -- if you suppress the vomit it will be dangerous, and when you have vomited you will feel fresh, you will feel unburdened, unloaded, good, healthy. Something was wrong in the food that you took and the body rejects it. Don't go on forcing it inside.


Anger is just a mental vomit. Something is wrong that you have taken in and your whole psychic being wants to throw it out, but there is no need to throw it out on somebody. Because people throw it on others, society tells them to control it.


There is no need to throw anger on anybody. You can go to your bathroom, you can go on a long walk -- it means that something is inside that needs fast activity so that it is released. Just do a little jogging and you will feel it is released, or take a pillow and beat the pillow, fight with the pillow, and bite the pillow until your hands and teeth are relaxed. Within a five-minute catharsis you will feel unburdened, and once you know this you will never throw it on anybody, because that is absolutely foolish.


2. Eckhart Tolle - on dealing with anger, resistance and pessimism

Anger is explosive - the ‘pain body’ just be there with it as a Witness.

Don’tChange, Don’t suppress. Just become aware! The awareness will change it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aqX5IFKYFWk


3. Sadguru - On how to avoid Anger
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QAsJvKsd2Xk

Anger is poisoning yourself. Anger is because mind is not taking instructions from you. Anger is happening to you because you are not in command of your faculties. Human consciousness should create situations not the other way around.

4. Buddhism - View on Anger

Anger (including all forms of aversion) is one of the three poisons—the other two are greed (including clinging and attachment) and ignorance—that are the primary causes of the cycle of samsara and rebirth. Purifying ourselves of anger is essential to Buddhist practice. Furthermore, in ​Buddhism, there is no such thing as “righteous” or “justifiable” anger. All anger is a fetter to realization.
The Buddha said, “Conquer anger by non-anger. Conquer evil by good. Conquer miserliness by liberality. Conquer a liar by truthfulness.” (Dhammapada, v. 233)

5. Bhagwad Gita - On Anger

b. From anger, complete delusion arises, and from delusion bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, and when intelligence is lost one is ruined. —Bhagavad Gita 2.63

There are three gates leading to hell—lust, anger and greed. Every sane man should give these up, for they lead to the degradation of the soul. —Bhagavad Gita 16.21

6. Others:
Seneca thought that anger is a temporary madness, and that even when justified, we should never act on the basis of it because, though "other vices affect our judgment, anger affects our sanity: Others come in mild attacks and grow unnoticed, but men's minds plunge abruptly into anger. … Its intensity is in no way regulated by its origin: For it rises to the greatest heights from the most trivial beginnings.”