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Saturday 28 April 2012
Learning ...it has just begun!!!
Enrolled for the Certified Professional Coach Programme, accredited to ICF. Some of us are hoping to graduate in June2012! In class again..... :)
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Friday 27 April 2012
Research on Executive Coaching
Executive Summary - On Research completed by me on Executive Coaching
Takeaways
- A quick
study done past two months to study awareness and experience
- 83
corporate executives as respondents, with evenly distributed age profile,
with almost two thirds in excess of 12+ years of experience and with 13%
of respondents being women. 73 % of them senior management.
- Very high
awareness of executive coaching, with greater than half aware of coaching
over three years.
- Interestingly, equal
proportion of respondents across all three above (30%) heard about eC from
their friends &relatives, their organization and through publications.
- Most
respondents believe that Executive Coaching is concerned with Management
development for higher responsibility, improving existing work, long term
building of skills and competencies.
- 69% of the executives
have had no prior experience of executive coaching whatsoever. The rest
responded in the affirmative.
- Functionally, 40% of
HR has experience of using executive coaching as compared to only 26% for
others. 40% of C-level has experience of using executive coaching as
compared to only 25% for others.
- Interestingly, there
is not a single professional who has gone through executive coaching
earlier and don’t want to do it again, as compared to 11% others, who has
no prior experience and still does not want to go through it.
- All respondents,
having prior eC experience, with just a minor variation found the
experience positive. Some of the adjectives used include: invigorating,
insightful, rewarding, could bring up personal and professional issues,
transformed my life.
- Benefits of eC include
career growth, solving issues, clear vision and strategy, sounding board,
strengthening leadership skills, expanded horizon etc
- 78% responded YES and
would like to go through executive coaching, 15% replied maybe and just 7%
responded in the negative.
- eC could be used respondents
say, for multiple purpose widely ranging from personality development,
innovations, people handling skills, customer satisfaction, cross cultural
sensitivity, work life balance.
- Selection of coach on
experience, references, and industry awareness; on personal traits: honesty,
sensitivity, good listener, confidentiality, passion.
- 42% of the respondents
prefer executive coaching duration to be less than 3 months, 32%
respondents, prefer 6-12 months, while 18% 3-6 months, with 7% stating one
year and longer.
- 82% of respondents
prefer 1 or max 2 sessions of executive coaching per month.
- The actual costs of an executive coaching engagement works out to an average of INR 1, 32 K.
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Saturday 14 April 2012
Releasing Judgement – Reflections by Steve Correa
I gather that judgement evokes guilt, as we feel assessed. Unfortunately this assessment is against someone’s subjective belief’s system and not objective criteria, etc. Further, when you criticise someone (and here I include being sarcastic, and caustic remarks too) we are being judgemental. We are saying, the rules we live by are better or more moral, or more accurate, or more correct than YOURS. A president once said, before going to war, “either you are with us, or you are
against us”, and converted everything to black and white. The war, by the way still rages. This is not an isolated instance: all wars, colonisation in the past has been from a moral standpoint: either to convert the ‘low life’ to a higher moral life, or that the victims, would benefit from such hegemony. The oppressor feels like the ‘rescuer’ in his story; the oppressed feels like the
victim in his. History records it as a victory or defeat, depending which side wins J. In my country, the 1857 civil revolt movement was a war for independence. Winston Churchill famously
said, ‘History will be kind, we would have written it”.
Let me dive deeper: when we criticise others, we are actually critical of that, which is
inside. The bible says, “judge not that thou be judged’. It is the absence of self – love for ourselves which is the real issue. We compare ourselves with others, although we know intellectually, it is not correct. We want to be like someone else, have something like someone else, be something like someone else – hoping he has the elixir of life. Thinking that he / she is happy. That he /she
has discovered true happiness , which is denied to us. The advertisements and billboards display images of those, who appear to be happy, content. Behind the billboard, lies the misery of an upcoming brand model, a miserable overworked artist, a harassed camera man, an irate customer. Who is happy? Yet the illusion goes on, and inexorably. Who has found that elsusive thing, called happiness? Bubka, the world champion, pole vault, only compared himself with
himself – that is what champions do! They set benchmarks for themselves. From
getting better, to good to great – they are always striving. It’s me versus myself.
For it is only when you are yourself, when you truly accept yourself: with all your own idiosyncrasy and foibles, when you accept yourself as being human, can you accept others. It
is then you can be human unto yourself and be human unto others. This acceptance has to be total, it cannot be unconditional, it cannot be judgemental. It cannot be marginal, it cannot be lived on the circumference –for to live this completely it has to be deeply integrated. To be living in the core – to live life in the centre. Acceptance is about living with all of you: the parts you like and dislike. It is not about tolerating or coping, but total acceptance of all the parts, including the disliked parts: to have equanimity. American Indian folklore, shares the story of a child asking his father, seeing two wolves fight: which one will win? The good or the evil wolf. The father
replied, both are within you. The one who will win, is the one you feed!. There is no GOOD or BAD – they are all judgements. They are all beliefs. Usually, they are all passed down to us, and swallowed whole without questioning. Stake your meanings to values you hold, stake your values, your meanings, never your LIFE. When we truly accept ourselves as Unique, we can readily accept others around us as Unique beings. Folks who we do not wish to change, who we do not
accept to be one thing or another. Folks, who do not live by our judgements of them. Either we are seeking validation or confirmation from others or we are invalidating or disrespecting others. We see saw through life, mortgaged to some ‘significant’ other who has more power to our life than our own, or we life in exile, a prisoner to our own banishment. As coaches, we have to be careful. Do we ask Leading questions, thereby inputting approval or disapproval, proffer advice (even with the best of intentions?). Or do we become more subtle and manipulative by hidden advice, ‘or would it help to….’.If we truly believe the client is the captain of the ship, why are we
navigating: enjoy the ride! J We have one role – to be the mirror, to offer presence. Let us not add dust to the mirror. Let us be aware. When judgement comes – be aware, then release it, and
let it be gone!
I gather that judgement evokes guilt, as we feel assessed. Unfortunately this assessment is against someone’s subjective belief’s system and not objective criteria, etc. Further, when you criticise someone (and here I include being sarcastic, and caustic remarks too) we are being judgemental. We are saying, the rules we live by are better or more moral, or more accurate, or more correct than YOURS. A president once said, before going to war, “either you are with us, or you are
against us”, and converted everything to black and white. The war, by the way still rages. This is not an isolated instance: all wars, colonisation in the past has been from a moral standpoint: either to convert the ‘low life’ to a higher moral life, or that the victims, would benefit from such hegemony. The oppressor feels like the ‘rescuer’ in his story; the oppressed feels like the
victim in his. History records it as a victory or defeat, depending which side wins J. In my country, the 1857 civil revolt movement was a war for independence. Winston Churchill famously
said, ‘History will be kind, we would have written it”.
Let me dive deeper: when we criticise others, we are actually critical of that, which is
inside. The bible says, “judge not that thou be judged’. It is the absence of self – love for ourselves which is the real issue. We compare ourselves with others, although we know intellectually, it is not correct. We want to be like someone else, have something like someone else, be something like someone else – hoping he has the elixir of life. Thinking that he / she is happy. That he /she
has discovered true happiness , which is denied to us. The advertisements and billboards display images of those, who appear to be happy, content. Behind the billboard, lies the misery of an upcoming brand model, a miserable overworked artist, a harassed camera man, an irate customer. Who is happy? Yet the illusion goes on, and inexorably. Who has found that elsusive thing, called happiness? Bubka, the world champion, pole vault, only compared himself with
himself – that is what champions do! They set benchmarks for themselves. From
getting better, to good to great – they are always striving. It’s me versus myself.
For it is only when you are yourself, when you truly accept yourself: with all your own idiosyncrasy and foibles, when you accept yourself as being human, can you accept others. It
is then you can be human unto yourself and be human unto others. This acceptance has to be total, it cannot be unconditional, it cannot be judgemental. It cannot be marginal, it cannot be lived on the circumference –for to live this completely it has to be deeply integrated. To be living in the core – to live life in the centre. Acceptance is about living with all of you: the parts you like and dislike. It is not about tolerating or coping, but total acceptance of all the parts, including the disliked parts: to have equanimity. American Indian folklore, shares the story of a child asking his father, seeing two wolves fight: which one will win? The good or the evil wolf. The father
replied, both are within you. The one who will win, is the one you feed!. There is no GOOD or BAD – they are all judgements. They are all beliefs. Usually, they are all passed down to us, and swallowed whole without questioning. Stake your meanings to values you hold, stake your values, your meanings, never your LIFE. When we truly accept ourselves as Unique, we can readily accept others around us as Unique beings. Folks who we do not wish to change, who we do not
accept to be one thing or another. Folks, who do not live by our judgements of them. Either we are seeking validation or confirmation from others or we are invalidating or disrespecting others. We see saw through life, mortgaged to some ‘significant’ other who has more power to our life than our own, or we life in exile, a prisoner to our own banishment. As coaches, we have to be careful. Do we ask Leading questions, thereby inputting approval or disapproval, proffer advice (even with the best of intentions?). Or do we become more subtle and manipulative by hidden advice, ‘or would it help to….’.If we truly believe the client is the captain of the ship, why are we
navigating: enjoy the ride! J We have one role – to be the mirror, to offer presence. Let us not add dust to the mirror. Let us be aware. When judgement comes – be aware, then release it, and
let it be gone!
Friday 13 April 2012
Truth vs Fraud – reflections by Steve Correa
The very notion that there is truth creates it anti-thesis that there must be untruths.
That there is truth and falsity. The presence of one invites the other and vice versa. It is like the two sides of a coin. You cannot have one. As humans,especially from birth till seven years, we acquire such ambivalences: trust,mistrust; love, hate, these emotions are held simultaneously and create perennial conflict in us. The object of our love is also the source of our hate: the mother. How does one reconcile these? Much is said about the middle path – the balance. Staying in the middle does not create the balance. Of being aware that the both emotions exist and lie
in the continuum. Having the awareness that the two are extreme counterpoints. Knowing
that the protagonist and antagonist are but one. That good and evil are both from the same universe. Knowing that when we create one, we create the other. That running from one is running to the other. That running from capitalism we embrace communism, running from anti-men, we create women lib, running from violence we create anti-violence marches. From gluttony to starvation and sacrifice. From hedonistic living to ascetic living. All these are counterpoints. All this is escapism. And while one exist, the other will always be present. Being aware, frees one from being caught in the inevitable vicissitude of swing from one end to the other. There is no freedom on the line – freedom comes only when you transcend. What is truth? I like to
talk about a movie by Akira Kurosawa – Rashomon. One event: a murder. And 4 versions. Which one is the truth? The reality is we all see things differently – of even the same event, eg: a road accident. In other words, we ‘select’, what we see, and ‘filter out’ what we do not wish to see. Truth is the stimuli, but dependant on cognitive interpretation, and biased by past experiences and beliefs, both conscious and unconscious.We see truth, as a function and relation to ourselves. When we priortise, we prioritise just our order of ourselves. Truth is ‘organised data to ourselves’.
Science answers only to the questions it is asked – it does not answer to truth. Even the very law of physics, we hold so sacrosanct, may be a cosmic accident, applicable for a few universes, but not for all. (Multiverse universe theories). One by one, scientific logic has - from Einstein's realization that measurements of space and time were not absolute but observer-dependent, to quantum mechanics, which not only put fundamental limits on what we can empirically know but also demonstrated that elementary particles and the atoms they form are doing a
million seemingly impossible things at once. In Hinduism, there is a notion of ‘almost true’ ;
it is like truth, but not truth. Let me explain: a rope, assumed to be a snake in the dark – is such an example. The freedom is to become aware of the phenomena. Many of us are aware and preach one thing and do another: this is hypocrisy. Then there is the other: who are naïve and
innocent - the gullible. Our society is in the hands of the hypocrites shepherding the gullible. Total awareness of what is happening takes place when one is fully conscious and in the present. Through practice of meditation – tapping the alpha state one gains access to intuition – the seventh sense!
Everyone has his own truth and we must respect it. Carl Jung, once was examining a
patient, who saw a chariot horse ride across the moon. He worked with her, as it was ‘her truth’. Respecting the ‘truth’ as held by the client is important – no matter how much it clashes with
our own notion of the truth. Truth is, it needs no proof. It exist for the person. We know we exist, we breathe, we love, we have emotions: we know! Truth needs no proofs. There is no need.
Falsity needs to be nurtured. A lie has to be created, fostered, stroked and looked
after. It has to be remembered. It has to be proved time and time. Hence we are
forever defending our lies. Hitler said, a lie repeated and repeated becomes the truth. He should know J . All our beliefs have to be defended regularly – they have been passed down. Hence the creationist theory clashed with science – The church’s truth was in variance with the truth of science. The sun no longer going around the earth! We no longer came from Adam and Eve. It is better we live with the reality that life has no meaning, than a meaning created that does not hold up – soon a fairy tale! Truth is not palatable – he who brings it is unpopular. Hence we go on substituting our lives, with small lies to keep away the truth, and the lies build up. Dealing in lies is one of the best businesses invented by men in power.
The worst form of falsity is when we deceive ourselves. Take the case of Valmiki, a famous sage, who had convinced himself that robbing others was his truth and supported by others, ie: his family. This self-justification, self-rationalisation is the ultimate deception. Research now reveals, that we lie unconsciously and multiple times within an hour itself. It has become a
habit. True truth comes from self-realisation. All truth is to be self-acquired. Borrowed or here
say truth is a lie. For truth is a lived phenomenon, an experienced phenomena. Truth is subjective reality – it belongs to just one, just one! Do not ask, what is truth? Whose truth is it anyway?
The very notion that there is truth creates it anti-thesis that there must be untruths.
That there is truth and falsity. The presence of one invites the other and vice versa. It is like the two sides of a coin. You cannot have one. As humans,especially from birth till seven years, we acquire such ambivalences: trust,mistrust; love, hate, these emotions are held simultaneously and create perennial conflict in us. The object of our love is also the source of our hate: the mother. How does one reconcile these? Much is said about the middle path – the balance. Staying in the middle does not create the balance. Of being aware that the both emotions exist and lie
in the continuum. Having the awareness that the two are extreme counterpoints. Knowing
that the protagonist and antagonist are but one. That good and evil are both from the same universe. Knowing that when we create one, we create the other. That running from one is running to the other. That running from capitalism we embrace communism, running from anti-men, we create women lib, running from violence we create anti-violence marches. From gluttony to starvation and sacrifice. From hedonistic living to ascetic living. All these are counterpoints. All this is escapism. And while one exist, the other will always be present. Being aware, frees one from being caught in the inevitable vicissitude of swing from one end to the other. There is no freedom on the line – freedom comes only when you transcend. What is truth? I like to
talk about a movie by Akira Kurosawa – Rashomon. One event: a murder. And 4 versions. Which one is the truth? The reality is we all see things differently – of even the same event, eg: a road accident. In other words, we ‘select’, what we see, and ‘filter out’ what we do not wish to see. Truth is the stimuli, but dependant on cognitive interpretation, and biased by past experiences and beliefs, both conscious and unconscious.We see truth, as a function and relation to ourselves. When we priortise, we prioritise just our order of ourselves. Truth is ‘organised data to ourselves’.
Science answers only to the questions it is asked – it does not answer to truth. Even the very law of physics, we hold so sacrosanct, may be a cosmic accident, applicable for a few universes, but not for all. (Multiverse universe theories). One by one, scientific logic has - from Einstein's realization that measurements of space and time were not absolute but observer-dependent, to quantum mechanics, which not only put fundamental limits on what we can empirically know but also demonstrated that elementary particles and the atoms they form are doing a
million seemingly impossible things at once. In Hinduism, there is a notion of ‘almost true’ ;
it is like truth, but not truth. Let me explain: a rope, assumed to be a snake in the dark – is such an example. The freedom is to become aware of the phenomena. Many of us are aware and preach one thing and do another: this is hypocrisy. Then there is the other: who are naïve and
innocent - the gullible. Our society is in the hands of the hypocrites shepherding the gullible. Total awareness of what is happening takes place when one is fully conscious and in the present. Through practice of meditation – tapping the alpha state one gains access to intuition – the seventh sense!
Everyone has his own truth and we must respect it. Carl Jung, once was examining a
patient, who saw a chariot horse ride across the moon. He worked with her, as it was ‘her truth’. Respecting the ‘truth’ as held by the client is important – no matter how much it clashes with
our own notion of the truth. Truth is, it needs no proof. It exist for the person. We know we exist, we breathe, we love, we have emotions: we know! Truth needs no proofs. There is no need.
Falsity needs to be nurtured. A lie has to be created, fostered, stroked and looked
after. It has to be remembered. It has to be proved time and time. Hence we are
forever defending our lies. Hitler said, a lie repeated and repeated becomes the truth. He should know J . All our beliefs have to be defended regularly – they have been passed down. Hence the creationist theory clashed with science – The church’s truth was in variance with the truth of science. The sun no longer going around the earth! We no longer came from Adam and Eve. It is better we live with the reality that life has no meaning, than a meaning created that does not hold up – soon a fairy tale! Truth is not palatable – he who brings it is unpopular. Hence we go on substituting our lives, with small lies to keep away the truth, and the lies build up. Dealing in lies is one of the best businesses invented by men in power.
The worst form of falsity is when we deceive ourselves. Take the case of Valmiki, a famous sage, who had convinced himself that robbing others was his truth and supported by others, ie: his family. This self-justification, self-rationalisation is the ultimate deception. Research now reveals, that we lie unconsciously and multiple times within an hour itself. It has become a
habit. True truth comes from self-realisation. All truth is to be self-acquired. Borrowed or here
say truth is a lie. For truth is a lived phenomenon, an experienced phenomena. Truth is subjective reality – it belongs to just one, just one! Do not ask, what is truth? Whose truth is it anyway?
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