Values

Values – a reflection.

What makes a group become a team? A drowning child (say at a beach) observed by onlookers may together spring to action to save the child. What was an assortment of people could be channelized as a shared purpose for the moment. Task accomplished they disperse. But is that enough to be called a team? I argue that for a team to really emerge, a shared value must also be agreed, as to how the team members will behave towards achieving the goals.

As is known, our behaviour springs from our attitudes, our attitudes from our beliefs, our beliefs through our Values. Values are the bedrock- our true north that guides all our Thoughts, Feelings and Actions.

Our view of the world is the lens of our values. Seeing a glass half full or half empty, seeing constraints or opportunities. What do we really mean, when we say, “it all depends on the situation”. Clearly, at first level we argue that it is not just the content of the phenomena; there is a context too that needs to be examined. But when we examine the context, we inject our values to it.

So it seems that that which changes is impermanent, for what is created must cease to exist some day. For it is argued, that if there is no clear beginning or clear end, just a deep middle: then by definition it must be transient. So are our lives: it will cease some day; our dreams: for it will break one day. This unreal believed to be real itself does not exist.

Values espoused by group members are credos by which the group will subject itself. It contains negotiability, resilience and Vision. Through this members hold themselves and each other responsible and accountable. There is mutuality of goals, and interdependence.

Values can only be believed when one ‘walks the talk’: when there is consistency in thought, feeling and action. It is only when these modalities are synchronized that members invest in the emerging Institution.

Trust comes from authentic conversations. From deep intelligence from those who have deep awareness in investing in relationships. Relationships  that support mutuality of growth, not from attachment. A relationship from self assuredness, and self sufficiency, and not from emptiness, or from a void that exist from within.  Seems to me that most of us is caught with the joys of the desiring, and not from the object of the desire. The object is just there: a spouse, a career, etc. What is attachment is the concept that comes with the possession of the object.

Drop the attachment. Stay aware